Today, I learned that my biological father passed away suddenly at the age of 67 years.
I’d only met him a few times, but I was aware that I had half sisters and brothers somewhere.
I didn’t expect to feel so devastated.
I didn’t expect to learn of his passing from my mother who had read the death notices in the paper today. I’d hoped that someone would try and find me.
On Friday I will attend his funeral in Hobart and there I will at least see 7 new family members - brothers and sisters – who knows how it will go?
I’d spoken about trying to get in contact many times over the past few months, that option no longer exists.
It really does hurt more than I thought it would.
He was my father after all.
I’m so sorry for your news Tannia. I hope at the very least that you can build a relationship with some of your siblings. ((Hugs))
I’m so sorry. Will be thinking of you on Friday. (Hug)
I’m really sorry. I can only imagine how mixed-up and sad and sort of lost you must be feeling. I hope you’ll find some support and comfort to help you through this time.
I am so sorry hon. It must be very difficult for you. Please try not to beat yourself up with “what ifs”.
I’m so sorry…he was your father, no matter how much he was in your life, so it is bound to hurt you. My deepest and sincerest sympathies to you. I’ve just lost a loved one 2 weeks ago today, I understand.
My condolences, Tannia.
And my best wishes for the funeral: I hope it offers some insight and solace with its sting of grief.
My condolences. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
That is a huge thing to be dealing with–in a way more painful and confusing than grieving a father who you knew well and grew up with. Terrible that no-one had contacted you. I hope you find a connection with your family in Hobart and that it helps you make sense of things.
x
I’m so sorry.
Praying for you.
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your father… Regardless to how much time you had contact with him he was still a part of your life…
Take care my friend xxx
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you can connect with your “new” family members, and nurse a relationship with them.
Regards,
Rebekka
So sorry for your loss. It seems mad to grieve it under the circs, but I understand totally and will feel just the same when mine goes. I think of it as the kid who has no money waiting by the ice cream van whilst all the other kids get theirs. He’s not going to get anything, as he has no money, but it’s made even more final – the last hope is gone, when the van drives off.
The need for family is fundamental and STRONG! The denial of it is devastating – I know!
Let the grief flow though, no matter how ‘mad’ it seems and let it out of your system. I find writing things down very helpful indeed – can help you to cry it all out. Things kinda feel better once they’re said – whether by the mouth, or on paper.
Hope your healing is swift.=)
Hugs, E=)
PS Good to see you posting and stitching again!